I’m sorry

3 11 2009

How old should a child be when they learn, “I’m sorry”?  I’ve told Levi sorry when I’ve made mistakes or blamed him for something he didn’t do or didn’t mean to do.  I’ve tried to tell him whenever it was appropriate, whenever I was sorry.  Levi is now 2 years and almost 9 months old… 33 months, almost 3 years.  Shouldn’t now be a good time for him to learn to say, “I’m sorry.”

Well, it better be.  He has a bowling ball for a head, or rather it’s that hard.  He tripped and fell today, and while I was consoling him on my lap, he whacked his head back and smacked my nose.  This was the hardest he’s ever smacked it before.  Instantly I cried, it hurt that bad.

I made him stay in his room until he said he’s sorry. He came out every so often, which we allow, but wouldn’t apologize, so I sent him back.  By the third time, we had a short (as in low to the ground) eye-to-eye chat and he mostly said sorry.  By mostly, I mean he said it and had some eye contact.

Is this the right time?  It seemed effective 2 days ago.  He’s got to learn, sooner rather than later, how his actions affect others.  So, now seems like a good time to me.





Sleeping & Camping

22 10 2009
A person in a sleeping bag
Image via Wikipedia

In a previous post I mentioned that my Grave’s Disease has come back.  The hormone levels didn’t even take long to get out of range.  I am already feeling the difference: my handwriting isn’t as controlled, I’m not napping as well, I’m not sleeping as well, and I feel more jazzed up.  So, my doctor prescribed another Beta Blocker for me.  Last night was the first night with this new Beta Blocker and I slept.  Sure, I had to read a bit to calm my mind; but I slept.

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Choices

21 10 2009
Graves' disease

My thyroid uptake was 98%. Image via Wikipedia

Apparently, methimazole is only designed to be used very short term.  Results will show at about 18 months.  If they don’t show up by 18 months, chances are you aren’t going to see promising results.  The success rate is less than 50%, with some sources citing only a 20% or 30% success rate.  I was on it for 22 months.  My thyroid hormone finally got to normal.  I got off the drug, and my thyroid has started to increase its hormones.  My Grave’s Disease is back.

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Choices & Competition in Health Care

3 10 2009

My favorite time to write is in the morning after I’ve read the paper.  Usually, I’ve read something that spurs me to write… getting my creative juices flowing, so to speak.  I write, in these moments, to react against or to something I’ve just read in my morning Oregonian.  Today, I”m writing about the health care debate, or lack thereof.

I’ve been wanting to write about health care for a while.  But, I haven’t really looked at the issue itself, only a few cursory glances towards some things  that have come my way.  In the end, I think health care for all is better than nothing.  I hope that the system will correct itself after the initial several SNAFUs.  I hope that citizens will write to their elected officials and tell them what they need.

Links for your own research:

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Canning

18 08 2009

I’ve wanted to learn to can vegetables for quite some time.  I’ve grown tomatoes for three years (not consecutive), and my husband and I are slowly working out our routines.  We have been to the u-pick farms more this year and have had a greater variety of fruits, although I don’t believe we’ve yielded the same quantity as last year.  Regardless, we are slowly learning, and slowly we are working our budget down and eating more home-prepared foods. Read the rest of this entry »





House Hunting

6 08 2009

It started, I mean really started, with a house being sold for $122,000.  I’d done the estimates.  I know our debt-to-income ratio.  I know how much we can afford, as in what’s 38% of our net income.  $122,000 was certainly feasible, and I knew this without talking to a bank.  So, after some pestering from Peter, I called a realtor.  I heard good things about one company, and they were supposed neighborhood specialists, so we made an appointment.  We were encouraged, strongly, like to the point of not being able to see the $122,000 house without one, to get a preapproval.  So, we called the recommended mortgage broker. Read the rest of this entry »





Disposable Work

20 05 2009

Year’s ago, I saw a comic that highlighted the plight of the temporary employee.  

Series of images highlighting how we treat employees as a society.

Series of images highlighting how we treat employees as a society.

The original image I saw simply had a man sitting awkwardly in a trash can, as if he’d just been thrown away.  

When I began temping, that was my only job.  I felt great joy in finally doing something that required a little more thought and skill.  But, I felt very disheartened by being used for such short assignments.  Thank the Lord, I was always able to pay rent – but not without help from my mother.  Finally, after temping for over a year, I was able to secure a full time placement.

Several years have gone by since that initial stint being a form of a ‘contract employee’ and my life has changed as has my outlook.  Knowing that I can be quite sensitive, I remind myself of the firm end dates, understand that jobs can change at any moments notice, and I am thankful if any employment date is extended or I get called back.

Regardless, temporary work doesn’t bode well for our long term goal of paying off my loans, buying a house, visiting family, etc.  Now that my husband works days, we have to balance the net income from the job to the cost of paying daycare.  Although the pay-scale I am at is certainly not what I’m worth, it is what the job is worth.  So, now I’m learning to negotiate higher wages because I simply cannot work for less than a certain amount because it would cease to be cost effective.   

The Triple Bottom Line, a policy theory for enacting sustainable ideas, argues we need to balance equally the economy, the environment, and equity.  If we fail to do those things, then we have not ensured our Triple Bottom Line is balanced and are most likely not moving towards a sustainable society.  

The way temp work is structured, it fails to balance all three bottom lines.  The economy isn’t in balance with temp work because the jobs are often sporadic and not dependable.  Additionally, the wages vary, so it makes it difficult for a person, especially a single person relying on that income, to create a monthly budget.  Without a monthly budget, extra income is hard to come by let alone ensuring the basics are paid for.  When someone is unstable, one could argue that link is weak, and as the cliché states, “We’re only as strong as our weakest link.”

The environment isn’t in balance for probably many reasons, but the thought that occurred to me relates to transportation.  Here, in Portland, the public transportation is better than adequate.  However, some jobs require short notice, which yields to lack of proper alternative transportation.  When we have a set schedule or a schedule that’s announced with planning time, finding alternate routes to work can avoid nasty car emissions.  At minimum, one can find good bus routes that expedite travel time.  At best, one could find a route that utilizes no green house gases during travel – like riding a bike.  Reducing our green house gas emissions reduces our carbon footrpint which lends itself towards balancing the Triple Bottom Line.

Finally, the equity portion is out of balance.  Sometimes, temporary workers are viewed with disdain, “Just a temp.”  It’s easy to acquire temps – simply call the staffing service for they have a line of folks chomping at the bit.  It’s also easy to let a temp go – and you can do it with minimal personal interaction, thereby relieving yourself of seeing the pain in someone’s eyes as they are let go.  Here, I’m speaking specifically about how we view and then in-turn treat others.  We, as a society, view temps as less than human, instead of the co-worker you sat next for the last 6 weeks, that co-worker is demoralized and dehumanized into “just a temp.”  We do this in many places, somehow bolstering our own existence by lessening anothers.  That’s the thing that needs to stop.  When we finally began to view each other as equal and cease looking at one another with contempt, we will begin to balance the equity portion of the Triple Bottom Line.  

Granted, many jobs require a burst of labor to get a job done.  My concern is how we, as a society, frame temporary workers whether it be in an office setting or for manual labor.  

I came to a realization several years ago that we all kind of want the same thing.  We all want our loved ones taken care of, and often we want to be able to give support to those loved ones when they need it.  Loved ones can vary person to person, for instance an oil man might love his oil company and a pastor might love his parishioners.  The two examples might have very different best-interests regarding their ‘loved ones.’   But, I believe, the goal is the same – they want their loved ones taken care of.  Now, the goal we have as a society is to be able to mesh these opposing goals to create a win-win solution for everyone.  If we extend everyone to mean all creatures on this planet, then we begin to incorporate the triple bottom line.  

And maybe that’s how we should frame our days – what do we want the world to look like for our loved ones.  Now, trade places with someone opposed to your ideals and really put yourself in their shoes.  How can we make both visions mesh?  How can we balance the triple bottom line so we cease to have such a disposable society.





Levi the Talking Monster

19 05 2009





Sick Baby

18 05 2009
Levi, before being sick, is standing in the backyard maybe on Mother's Day.

Levi, before being sick, is standing in the backyard maybe on Mother's Day.

I slept in until Pete was done showering.  So, at ten after 5 this morning, I got up, got his lunch together and began tidying the kitchen.  I received an idea-inspiring email from a friend, and worked on some things for that conversation.  I put the laundry in the dryer, got my lunch together.  I was feeling quite productive.  I spent too long in the shower, but was still doing good on time.  I began getting Levi’s breakfast together, and finally, at 7:30am I went to get the Bug up.

Levi had squacked an hour earlier, but he put himself back to sleep.  He didn’t really want to get out of bed, but didn’t raise too much of a fuss when I scooped him and Rabbbit out of bed.  His head was HOT!  It felt like it was on fire, so I laid him on the changing table and touched his tummy and legs, which were warmer but not hot like his head.  The window was closed, he had no covers on, and the heat was turned off.  So, I looked at the docile babe and ran into the bathroom to get the thermometer.  We haven’t had much luck with little person thermometers, but we did have a $7 standard, digital thermometer from Walgreen’s.  So, I asked Levi to play a little game – keep the thermometer in his mouth until it beeped.  Immediately, it seemed, the readout was 101.5!  My baby has a temperature, a fever!  

We are all getting over colds, but Levi has never run a fever.  Yes, he’s had weight issues, ER visits, bumps, scrapes, and colds.  But, my little baby has never had a fever.  Kids get sick, but as a first time mom, this was his first fever!  

I didn’t even change his diaper, I just scooped him and Rabbit up and we went into the kitchen.  He was quite uncomfortable and would moan frequently.  I grabbed the Children’s Ibuprofen and poured 1 dose.  He can now drink out of cups, and they flavor this medicine so well, I diddn’t even need to tell him to drink the whole thing… he just did.  

I called the Pediatrician and left a message with the answering service, left a message with the daycare, left a message with my work, and called my husband.  All before 8am.  Nothing opens until 8am or 8:30am!  The on-call doctor called right back and assured me there was nothing to worry about but to bring him in if I felt it necessary.  I read at the daycare they only want kids to be late if there’s a doctor appointment, and I really wanted to rule out an ear infection, so I waited until 8:30am.  Levi and I watched T.V. until 8:10am, and then he began to feel better.   So, we ate breakfast – he certainly had most of an appetite.  I was able to secure a 9:30am appointment at 8:45am, and by that time, Levi and I were both ready and dressed.  So, now I just had to get the car ready.  I had to pack for the doctor’s office and a potential daycare drop.  (Did I mention my dear husband forgot his license today and that would have been another trip?)  

We arrived at the doctor 5 minutes early, and we were called in right away.  All told, it was a 20 minute visit – record time!  Levi loved the parking garage where he could hear his echo as he yelled, “What!” in the car and in the garage.  He loved pressing the elevator buttons, and he loved the toys in the waiting room.  But, fear and trepidation took over when we went through the doors into the exam rooms.  We used a different doctor, who was wonderful.  She checked for ear infections, swollen glands, and confirmed his runny nose.  The nurse had  already taken his temperal temperature, which read 98.6.  

The verdict, though, was that kids can’t attend daycare when they have a temperatover over 100.3 in a 24-hour period.  So, at home we stay.  Now, Mr. Levi is napping, but we’ve had a busy day.  We played baseball in the yard, watched some OPB, tried to spray off the aphids with soapy water and our new spray bottles, and then lunch.  He didn’t have much of an apppetite for lunch, and he barely squaked going down for his nap.

So, that’s the day-to-day diary of Mr. Levi and his first fever.  Everyone was very helpful and understanding, especially about missing work and allowing us to have an ‘extra’ day for daycare.  

But, the thing that gets me is that I don’t like missing work, and now I have to if the kiddo is sick.  Everyone was understanding, but what happens when you get a boss who isn’t?  Family comes first, because there is a limited point to having the job if there is no family to take care of… I suppose we’ll see what happens when I go back to work tomorrow.